You’ve Mastered Your Problems! And that’s great news! It means you have a powerful brain! Now discover the power to master POSITIVE. Dive into real-life stories of transformation, from overcoming perfectionism to reclaiming financial freedom. Explore how old patterns are unconsciously mastered and how new, empowering habits for a brighter tomorrow can be, too!

Here, I share my story—not to prescribe, but to offer solidarity in the search for a healing process that honors our individual truths. This is a dialogue about the courage to heal on our own terms, and a challenge to the one-size-fits-all solution often imposed upon survivors of trauma.

"Your Mind Behind the Curtain" offers a behind-the-scenes look at how I leverage NLP and hypnosis to catalyze change. Discover my approach to unlocking your unconscious, reshaping your experiences, and steering towards your fullest potential.

Introspection is a natural process where our minds reflect on ourselves, but it often leans toward negativity due to our brain's survival instincts and external influences. However, exploring our sensory experiences can help us understand our thoughts and emotions better. By being curious and embracing this journey, we can grow and become more authentic. Introspection isn't about getting lost in negativity; it's about understanding ourselves deeply.

Did you know that our past experiences can deeply influence our present reality, even if we're not consciously aware of it? Meet Lily, whose outward success belied a hidden struggle rooted in childhood emotional neglect. Follow her journey of self-discovery as she uncovers the unconscious patterns driving her behavior and learns to rewrite her story from the inside out.

Discover the surprising downside of sharing your goals aloud in today's digital age. Uncover how the social reality effect can hinder your progress, leaving you feeling satisfied without taking meaningful steps forward. Learn practical strategies to navigate this phenomenon and stay focused on your aspirations. Read on for tips on selective sharing, action-oriented planning, and celebrating real milestones. Find the balance between external validation and internal drive. Dive into the full blog for insights and actionable advice.

Explore the transformative journey of overcoming low self-esteem, guided by the concept of mindful debugging. Uncover the power of self-guided experiences through purposeful workbooks designed for personal growth. Discover tangible benefits and witness the transformative process that leads to a more empowered and resilient self and ultimately raise your self-esteem!

The belief that "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" doesn't always hold true for trauma survivors. Trauma can lead to behaviors like excessive accommodation, tolerance of negativity, emotional clutter, quick forgiveness, and difficulty asserting oneself. Loved ones should encourage survivors to express needs, set boundaries, and be patient. Survivors may also face challenges in speaking up, excessive sensitivity, trust issues, and navigating relationships. The path to healing involves understanding these changes, fostering open communication, and providing support for a balanced and fulfilling life.

Explore the depths of the unconscious to understand how past experiences influence our present reality. From revealing hidden conflicts to changing negative patterns, delving into our minds can lead to clarity, healing, and personal growth. Discover the power of self-awareness and embark on a journey to unlock your true potential.

Discover the power of your limbic system, the brain's emotional center, in shaping how you see, hear, and feel the world. From interpreting visual cues to attaching emotions to sounds and sensations, it influences every aspect of our sensory experiences. Understanding this connection empowers us to navigate our emotions, recognize triggers, and make conscious choices for personal growth and well-being. Unlock the secrets of your mind and embrace the marvels of neuroscience!

Our words shape our brains. Expressions like "I feel depressed" reinforce negativity. Discussing problems offers temporary relief but often leads to frustration and limited change. Positive affirmations benefit those with high self-esteem but may worsen negative beliefs for those with low self-esteem due to confirmation bias. Understanding how our brains interpret language, including sensory experiences, is crucial for lasting change and personal growth.

Embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation as you explore the profound insights of hypnosis and the unconscious mind. Through these posts, unlock practical tools to accelerate your personal growth and understand yourself on a deeper level. Gain invaluable insights into how your subconscious influences your actions and learn to harness this power for positive change. Dive into the fascinating revelation that the brain reacts before conscious awareness, offering a new perspective on the mysteries of your mind.

Did you know that 95% of your mind's activity happens beyond your conscious awareness? This hidden realm holds the key to your automatic emotional and behavioral responses. Feel like you're lacking control? It's because you haven't learned to speak the language of your unconscious mind. By learning how to communicate with it, you’ll tap into the power of your whole mind and achieve the changes you really want.

Diving into the idea of your opposite self is a fun trip into “What if?” land. It’s about being curious enough to flip your view around, just to see what’s on the other side. Give it a shot - Ask yourself, “If I were totally different, what would I do?” You might be surprised by what you find. There could be brilliant sides of you waiting in the shadows of the unconscious mind ready to say, “Hey, where have you been?”

In this post, I share a personal journey of transformation through life's hardest moments, from losing a job to the deeper pain of losing a loved one. It's a story of how these experiences have reshaped my understanding of the unconscious mind, leading to growth, resilience, and a newfound depth of empathy. Join me as we explore the hidden lessons in life's challenges.

As the strong, silent type and a devoted executive and family man, my dad dedicated himself to self-improvement and our family's well-being. He actively worked on his marriage and was a constant in our lives despite a demanding career. After his passing, I uncovered his deep-seated struggles through a letter about my childhood abuse. This revealed his inner conflict and regret for not protecting me more, shedding light on the complex emotional challenges men face in balancing societal strength with vulnerability. His journey deeply resonates with me, highlighting the intricate dance between masculinity and emotional openness.

I recently joined Mollie Sommer's podcast to discuss my journey of self-discovery and resilience, emphasizing the rediscovering a love for learning, transformation, positive decision-making, finding joy and self-expression through dance, exploring alternative change modalities like NLP and hypnosis, and truly go through the journey of Getting Past Survivor.

Mollie's warmth made our discussion special. I hope this episode inspires you to pursue education, find your passions, and overcome obstacles for a fulfilling life.

Every day we have decisions, questions, quandaries, dilemmas to figure out, understand. Here are some questions that can help enlighten the process.

Imagine this: a battle within, one part cheering, "You deserve the best!" The other whispers, "No, you don't.” You try to believe, to break free from doubts. Looking back, you long for that confident step into a fulfilled life.

Ever notice resistance holding you back? What if you could let it go, embracing your truth and transforming your life?

Many parents avoid discussing sexual abuse prevention with kids, believing it won't happen or that kids will tell them. But statistics show 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are victims before 18, mostly by people they know and trust. We must confront these misconceptions and normalize empowering, age-appropriate education on body safety and consent. Open communication dispels myths, keeps kids safe, and takes this issue out of the shadows. Here are 10 reasons why adults don’t talk about childhood sexual abuse.

Dive into the world of group healing and discover how our senses play a massive role in our experiences. Ever felt a story resonate so deeply you thought it was yours? This piece unpacks why that happens and how to navigate these sessions without getting lost. With personal insights from a seasoned facilitator, you'll learn to harness the power of your senses for a more genuine healing journey.

The next time you experience a vivid dream, a sudden memory, or a strong gut feeling, don't push it away.

Welcome it. Sit with it. Understand it.

These sensory experiences are like messengers, bringing forth insights from the depths of your unconscious mind. Learn more about how to connect more deeply with yourself.

In this blog post, I shine a spotlight on a critical message: The significance of listening to survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Join me as I emphasize the importance of providing survivors with a safe space to share their stories. By lending an empathetic ear and validating their experiences, we can help survivors heal and contribute to a more compassionate society.

This blog post explores two mindsets: "go-getter" (enthusiastic and goal-oriented - moving towards) and "avoider" (cautious and problem-focused - moving away from). Let’s talk about the importance of language patterns in shaping our reality and encourage a balanced communication style that considers both pursuing goals and addressing challenges.

Nagging feelings like emptiness, fear, and overwhelm are signals from our unconscious mind, urging us to explore and understand ourselves better. Through self-reflection, we can decode the messages behind these feelings and make positive changes in our lives.

Creating, welcoming, accepting communication is desperately needed as a foundation of being human - a healthy human. Survivors of childhood sexual abuse, rape, bullying, and abuse are all taught to keep their mouths shut. The perpetrators NEED our silence in order to survive. Because of the nature of abuse, we comply as best as we can. As a mom I was determined to protect my kids, and creating open communication was paramount in that. Here’s another step in my journey of Getting Past Survivor so my kids don’t have to.

When my children were growing up, our dinner table was a special place. Each night, one of them would be the moderator, asking questions that brought us closer together. We shared the best and worst parts of our day, what made us laugh and cry, something we learned, and our favorite memory. These conversations created a bond that will forever be cherished.

You’ve heard of the fear of success, but what about the benefits of not succeeding? Looking back at your life, where did holding yourself back actually seem beneficial to your unconscious mind? The unconscious mind is there to serve you, but all too often it has the wrong idea. In this case, for me, it was all about changing my mindset to embrace that as much as I held myself back, I truly did want to succeed.

Over the last few years I had resolved so many things but didn't recognize that there was a part of me that was still needing to be addressed, cleared, resolved, loved, and that was my 7-8 year old who had to leave Belgium, had to leave the life where she finally had her first friends, first real relationships.

What does hope mean to you? How does it show up in your life, in your healing journey? Do you have hope for yourself? I didn’t for a long time, even though I was determined to find it. And when I did find it, I found me.